Sad news

On Tue, 27 Aug 2019 17:16:15 +0100, "Mr Pounder Esquire"
wrote:

Roderick Stewart wrote:
Bill,

I've been deliberating what I could possibly say here that wouldn't
sound trite or simply a duplication of what others have already said,
but I realise I must add my sympathies if only to swell the numbers,
because the real message is that you are not alone. It's a bizarre
situation that a bunch of people who only know each other as words on
a screen and will probably never meet can regard each other as friends
to the extent of sharing each other's sorrows, but there we are.

I think the point somebody made about grandchildren is a particularly
strong one. I know you've got grandchildren; you've mentioned them
plenty of times, and every time you do I am reminded of my own, and
the strange uplifting mixture of worry, frustration, amazement and
pure love that nothing else can provide. It's like having children all
over again, but this time with the time and patience to cope with it
better (and give them back when you've had enough). I know I would be
a different person without mine. Try to see yours as often as you can.
(I expect you will anyway). Anything you can do to add to their
knowledge and experience or just let them know how much they mean to
you will help them cope with whatever their own lives throw at them.
Nothing can replace your loss of course, but grandchildren can give
you a sense of purpose and meaning like no other, and I'm sure this
will help.

I hope it also helps you to know that your occasional colourful and
amusing reminiscences of some of the crazy situations you have been in
and various wacky people you have met are very much appreciated. I
expect it will be some time before you feel like sharing any more of
these with us, but if you ever think you do, don't hesitate. I'm sure
I speak for most of us when I say that the uplifting effect your
stories have on our otherwise mundane lives is greatly valued.

Rod.

+1

Another +1

--
Peter Duncanson
(in uk.tech.digital-tv)

On 27/08/2019 11:04, Roderick Stewart wrote:
Bill,

I've been deliberating what I could possibly say here that wouldn't
sound trite or simply a duplication of what others have already said,
but I realise I must add my sympathies if only to swell the numbers,
because the real message is that you are not alone. It's a bizarre
situation that a bunch of people who only know each other as words on
a screen and will probably never meet can regard each other as friends
to the extent of sharing each other's sorrows, but there we are.

I think the point somebody made about grandchildren is a particularly
strong one. I know you've got grandchildren; you've mentioned them
plenty of times, and every time you do I am reminded of my own, and
the strange uplifting mixture of worry, frustration, amazement and
pure love that nothing else can provide. It's like having children all
over again, but this time with the time and patience to cope with it
better (and give them back when you've had enough). I know I would be
a different person without mine. Try to see yours as often as you can.
(I expect you will anyway). Anything you can do to add to their
knowledge and experience or just let them know how much they mean to
you will help them cope with whatever their own lives throw at them.
Nothing can replace your loss of course, but grandchildren can give
you a sense of purpose and meaning like no other, and I'm sure this
will help.

I hope it also helps you to know that your occasional colourful and
amusing reminiscences of some of the crazy situations you have been in
and various wacky people you have met are very much appreciated. I
expect it will be some time before you feel like sharing any more of
these with us, but if you ever think you do, don't hesitate. I'm sure
I speak for most of us when I say that the uplifting effect your
stories have on our otherwise mundane lives is greatly valued.

Rod.

Thank you Rod. Very kind.

Bill

In article , Bill Wright
scribeth thus
On 26/08/2019 12:22, Mr Pounder Esquire wrote:
pinnerite wrote:
Like all your followers, I too am very sorry for your loss.

Alan

+1


An oddity is that when people say "You'll feel better eventually" or
whatever my reaction is to think that I don't want to feel better. I
want to stay like this for ever, crying for her. To "feel better" would
be to distance myself from her, and I don't want to do that. I want her
to fill my mind for ever.

Bill

Bill..

That is totally understandable. Been there and got that sad Tee shirt
albeit a long time ago now. She poor soul took her own life after a long
depressive illness and that was in 1990 since that time re married two
more nippers and divorced but it does hit you like that. It will get
better after.

One comfort i did take was that she was no longer in the pain and misery
she suffered from. One other thing that did help a lot at the time was i
was talking to anyone who asked about her and a lot did.

Do you know even to this day almost 30 years on when I'm out that way
where she rests, out at Long Melford in Suffolk, i stop there and have a
chat with her as mad as that sounds! I tell her how well her amazing
daughter she left behind is doing in her life now shes right around the
other side of the world.

I never met Hil but from your journals over time its as if, we in an odd
way are all part of the online family!

Bless her and you mate


--
Tony Sayer


Man is least himself when he talks in his own person.

Give him a keyboard, and he will reveal himself.

On 28/08/2019 22:01, tony sayer wrote:

Bill..

That is totally understandable. Been there and got that sad Tee shirt
albeit a long time ago now. She poor soul took her own life after a long
depressive illness and that was in 1990 since that time re married two
more nippers and divorced but it does hit you like that. It will get
better after.

One comfort i did take was that she was no longer in the pain and misery
she suffered from. One other thing that did help a lot at the time was i
was talking to anyone who asked about her and a lot did.

Do you know even to this day almost 30 years on when I'm out that way
where she rests, out at Long Melford in Suffolk, i stop there and have a
chat with her as mad as that sounds! I tell her how well her amazing
daughter she left behind is doing in her life now shes right around the
other side of the world.

I never met Hil but from your journals over time its as if, we in an odd
way are all part of the online family!

Bless her and you mate

Oh Tony! That is so good to read. Thank you.

Bill